This is Chris and I'm too lazy to sign out and use my own account. Dawnell says that when Womb-baby jumps out and says "hi" she gets a cool present of a significant monetary value
Is that correct? I know you all check out the blog, so please comment.
And a "sorry" if this ends up getting any of the new fathers in trouble when their wives start asking them where their cool presents are. We guys are oblivious sometimes.
-C
most definitely dawnell should be getting something nice - small expensive stones are appropriate!
ReplyDeleteThat is absolutely true.
ReplyDeleteThank you both. I mentioned small, expensive stones in my speech, but he seemed a little skeptical. He asked what his present was and I said, "A baby." He just wasn't getting why that wasn't my present as well.
ReplyDeleteyeah i tried to tell greg the same thing...maybe you should talk to him Chris and tell him how its done
ReplyDeletea gift is fine, but this idea that you have to buy your wife a diamond or other expensive jewelry if she has a baby is INSANE. Who can afford to buy their wife a diamond when you just had a baby?
ReplyDeleteAnd would charging a diamond to the credit card bill be a favor to your wife, considering she probably must work to pay it off? I don't see how that is a gift at all (sorry honey, your going to have to make some diapers out of rags, but enjoy that rock!)
I respectfully dissent.
however, a small gift is nice. erin hates surprises though.
Chris, you seem to have been very sweet and supportive through out this pregnancy, why destroy that image now by being neglegent to your sweet wife's final physical sacrifice in bringing your firstborn son into this world? Is this not an important enough occasion for you to give her a lasting symbol of your undying appreciation for the wonderful woman she is? I have not always received a gift, and sometimes I have, and I know some women who do, and some who don't. Don't you think you have the eight cow wife? Prove it by giving her a token of your love. Think of something all on your own, it needn't specifically be jewelry (however, dawnell happens to particulary love and hoard such things as you know). :-) Good luck Chris, maybe you shouldn't have asked this question in the first place...
ReplyDeleteBoo Greg, boo!!! I happen to think that planning for the gift should have just been part and parcel of planning for the baby. But your *opinion* is duly noted. :-)
ReplyDeletei guess i picked a bad one...
ReplyDelete:)
you better not make the same mistake chris
Nice try, Greg. No one said to go into debt for the gift. Going into debt for it probably isn't a good idea, it's a good thing that's not required. Heartfelt and thoughtful is all that is needed. Come on, Mr Attorney, you're a smart boy, you'll come up with something.
ReplyDeleteso apparently chris and I were supposed to "plan" our way into oodles of green.
ReplyDeleteHere is a plan: take the money you would pay for a diamond, and set up a tax advantaged 529 college savings account for the baby. Then tell your wife that your present is that she won't have to work to get her kids through college.
Although I can empathize with the predominant view here, the ultimate conclusion is wrong. The whole idea behind this tradition (to the extent that it can be called that) is that one day when the child is older the parent can present them with this small, expensive gift as a special present. Diamonds are a girl's best friend, but when it's a baby boy, the father would be a better judge of a gift that your new child would enjoy having.
ReplyDeleteThis may not have been the way it always was -- previous generations of men were a bit too primitive to appreciate such a sentimental gesture and to plan so far ahead for it, but we live in more modern times and Chris is clearly a modern guy. Chris should find something he can give womb baby at this time, leaving Dawnell to trust that he will, like the good modern man that he is, not pass up a more appropriate opportunity to lavish her with gifts.
I can't believe that Greg posted anonymously as "one of the women folk." Can't take the heat, huh, Greg?
ReplyDeleteFor what it's worth, Dawnell was right here when I typed up the question. I'd just never heard of the whole "womb present" so she told me to post and ask if it wasn't true. I guess wii'll have to see what we can get...
Thanks for all the great advice. And Dawnell, you stay out of this! I didn't ask you :-)
Sorry Chris, but she is right, a piece of jewlery is ideal, then she has something to wear when she is changing poopy diapers that makes her feel special!
ReplyDeleteLest Greg get in trouble, the anonymous post wasn't him.
ReplyDeleteOf course, if you believe he couldn't take the heat enough to post anonymously once, there isn't much an anonymous posting could say to convince you otherwise.
I'll nonetheless try: Go Bucks!
I say shame on Chris for doubting. Even if it weren't a tradition or something that is done by some, if Dawnell is feeling like she is about to do something very hard and scary she shouldn't have to justify her feelings/expectations. If she even hints at it, Chris should be sensitive enough to see the need and find an appropriate way to meet that (eg with something more special than a mylar balloon).
ReplyDeleteWhile I think a gift is nice, I have to kind of side with the guys on this one. And, I'm pregnant. As for the tradition of a gift to give to the child at a later date, I think a nice bracelet for the girls, and actually ... I have no idea what I would get for a little boy. Maybe a special blessing outfit? Oh well. Flowers at the hospital would be nice.
ReplyDeleteI am also a negative on the fancy gift idea. No material gift can compare to the gift of a child in your life. Ok, seriously, all it does is give your child something to negate the "think of all the pain I suffered to get you here" card. For me, the idea falls along the same lines as giving a specified anniversary gift for each year. If you must do something, set up a 529 in Beckett's name and give Dawnell one day of pampering each month.
ReplyDeleteI think a gift would definately be appropriatae for all of Dawnell's hard work!
ReplyDeleteI definitely agree with Dawnell! This is such an important time in
ReplyDeleteyour life that it should be marked
with a special gift! I know I
appreciated the gifts that I
received on the births of my two
children. When Lindsay's labor became more than she could handle she even coaxed a gift of jewelry
out of her Dad. I'm counting on you Chris to do the right thing!